Three successful people reveal how fathers
shape their destiny.
Rebecca
Lobo: Be Loving
I
knew — even when I was very young — just how much my mom and
dad loved each other. Whenever one of them went out, they
kissed each other good-bye. My
brother, sister and I thought this was gross!
But when I get married, I can only hope that I will have found
someone who loves me as much as Dad loves Mom. Because there
was always so much love in the family, I
grew up with an incredible security blanket.
Mom
battled breast cancer when I was in college. Despite his worry,
Dad was a pillar of strength for us and especially for her.
After her mastectomy,
she decided against the added trauma
of breast-reconstruction
surgery. Mom told me that in their entire marriage Dad never
suggested that she even change her hairstyle. Instead he has
always told her how beautiful she is. And that’s why she thinks
fighting cancer wasn’t as hard as it could have been. She
knew that no matter what, Dad and his love would be there.
Rebecca
Lobo, a former College Player of the Year, plays
basketball for the WNBA’s New
York Liberty.
Richard
Branson: Encourage
My
sisters and I grew up in a little village in England. Our
father was a struggling lawyer, but I always knew he was special.
He never criticized, but used praise to bring out our best.
He'd say, “If you pour water on flowers, they flourish. If
you don’t give them water, they die.”
I
remember as a child I said something unkind about somebody,
and my father said, “Any time you say something unpleasant
about somebody else, it’s a reflection of you.” He explained
that if I looked for the best in people, I would get the best
in return. I've tried to follow this principle in running
my company.
Dad's
also always been very understanding. At 15, I started a magazine.
It was taking up a great deal of my time, and the headmaster
of my school gave me a choice: stay in school or leave to
work on my magazine.
I
decided to leave, and Dad tried to sway me from my decision,
as any good father would. When he realized I had made up my
mind, he said, “Richard, when I was 23, my dad persuaded me
to go into law. And I've always regretted it. I wanted to
be an archeologist,
but I didn’t pursue my dream. You know what you want. Go fulfill
that dream.”
As
it turned out, my little publication went on to become Student,
a national magazine for young people in the U.K. My wife and
I have two children, and I’d like to think we are bringing
them up in the same way Dad raised me.
Richard
Branson is chairman of the Virgin Group of Companies,
which owns Virgin Atlantic Airways,
Virgin Entertainment and Virgin Cola.
John
Lewis: Have Hope
As
a young boy, I used to complain about having to get up so
early to work on our farm in Troy, Ala. One day my father
took me aside and said, “Son, we have to do this in order
to make things better. Hang in there and things will improve.”
Dad
was an optimist by nature, and he instilled in me this concept
of hope about the future. He also taught us that we couldn’t
just be concerned about our own circumstances. We also had
to be concerned about others.
I
saw my father always giving and always sharing. We didn’t
have that much to share or to give, but he had faith that
things would work out—even under tremendously difficult conditions.
There was a lot of fear back then in Alabama.
Segregation
was very rigid. Water fountains for us were marked “Colored,”
and we could only walk on one side of the street. But somehow
he survived under these circumstances without becoming bitter,
angry or hateful.
My
father passed away in 1977. But if he had lived to see my
election to Congress
he would have been very proud and happy. I'd like to believe
that he's looking down and watching me today.
John
Lewis represents Georgia’s 5th District in the
U.S. House
of Representatives.
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